Give it time.
Personally I'm blessed because my best friend found JWD before I did (even tho I didn't know) we both pioneered together and served at bethel but it wasn't until 2005 when I left that I found out he was posting here as Blackman.
We laugh about it but it is a great support to have someone I went thru the trenches with who is out and we can support each other.
For OP just keep your head up and look into meet-up groups with folks who share similar interest with you.